Man sought in alleged Brooklyn forcible touching incident | Metro.us Metro.us

Man sought in alleged Brooklyn forcible touching incident | Metro.us Metro.us

Ladies, how many times have you been on your way to work or where ever destination you're headed to and you come across some pervert getting a little too close to you they take advantage of this especially in very crowded trains on rush hour to find someone trying to either grope you or any other female or rub themselves on you. As a woman I think it's so disgusting, disrespectful and an invasion of our personal space.  This is why I avoid crowded trains and buses overall but these incidents usually take place more on subways.  I always try to be very aware of my surroundings and will be quick to say something if need be.   When I was younger I was the victim of this stupidity.  I was riding on the train to school wearing a skirt tights and shoes and the train was crowded and this guy had the nerve to inapproriately touch grab and feel my behind.  It was embarrassing and infuriating to me as I felt so violated and back in the late 90's cell phones weren't as affordable and accessible as now or have the advanced camera features but I got my revenge when it was time to get off I gave him a good hard kick in the shin and quickly left.  I think this has always been an issue on mass transit as there's been perverts since the beginning of time lol but with today's advanced technology catching them in the act is easier.  I'm glad the victim got to snap a picture of him and I hope the police do catch up with him b/c no one should have to be touched inappropriately and I can bet she's not his first victim but it's her quick thinking that put his face out there and will hopefully get him caught by the police.   Ladies stay safe, stay vigilant, feel free to elbow or kick in the shin if neccessary and let them know you will NOT stand to be disrespected. 

Urban fashion disasters

Living in a city like NYC you see a lot of different people different styles and you also see some of the worst things that make you wonder did this person look in the mirror before they left? or did they get dressed in the dark? #1 Spandex is not for everyone unless you have a body like a run way model proceed with caution 2# Just b/c it comes your size doesn't mean you have any business wearing it. 3# The latest trend seems to be showing your cutesy neon colored bras, zebra, etc. do us all a favor and wear proper colored underwear there's a reason it's supposed to under your clothes 4# if you're not skinny don't wear skinny jeans 5# Don't wear sandals if your feet have to be sand blasted by a pumice stone or haven't visited a nail salon in a long time 6# Underwear is a requirement NOT optional. You'd be surprised on how many people have violated this rule 7# Sheer fabrics on dresses or pants have no place in the office environment if you must wear a slip 8# Men who sag their pants GROW UP You are way beyond JHS and HS days. Buy yourself a belt your underwear belong inside your pants and look like a grown up. 9# Spanx can only fix so much 10# Pants ladies wear pants in YOUR size if it's tight it's not right (is a myth and a lie) we don't need to see every curve bump clump or outline of intimate areas. Camel toe violations are a big NO NO. When in doubt go to the next size. Black is your best friend to camflouage ALL. 11# V.P.L. (the visible panty line) there's really no excuse for this these days are there are plenty of options out there seamless underwear being one of them white pants= nude panties, etc. 12# Low cut blouses have no place in the office and in certain social occassions like church setting and your child's school trips save your daisy dukes, tube tops, and other things for your private occasions. Your child still has to see these people or your spouse still has to face their co workers. 13# Bras wear your right size if your cups runneth over proceed to the next cup size and if you're a C cup and larger this is a requirement not optional 14# Personal hygiene is very important spare your fellow commuters co workers etc. please shower everyday, deodorant, scope, and soap are your best friends no one wants or needs to smell this during the morning or on the way home 15# Men don't dress like you just rolled out of bed, ratty shoes and sneakers are a no no. 16# Dress and ACT your age. Stop trying to be down with the young people if you graduated HS more than 10 yrs ago I've seen women and men who do this and it's not cute. 17# White does not go with everything I don't care what ppl say 18# A tootbrush scope and tooth paste should be a part of everyone's daily routine 19# Your disposition and the way you dress and carry yourself says a lot about you. 20# Maternity: If you're pregnant use your commonsense there is a thing called maternity clothes, this is not the time to wear a string bikini at the beach and think you look cute you look like a moron 21# If gravity has taken over DON'T WEAR A BIKINI OR SPEEDOS AT ALL 22# TRIANGLE BIKINI TOPS ARE NOT FOR PPL ABOVE A C CUP 23# Ladies a shaver and some shaving cream are your best friends, nothing more nasty than a woman who doesn't shave under her arms or legs or wax her upper lip. 24# Don't squeeze into shoes, please buy your right size 25# Perfume and Cologne are great just don't put the whole bottle on 26# Natural hair doesn't mean DIRTY 27# Men white t-shirts are supposed to be WHITE faded dingy yellow underarms are for the TRASH. Bleach can be purchased in 99 cts store. 28# Men odor eaters please put them in your sneakers.

flawed healthcare system part 2

This past weekend was my birthday weekend and we had a nice simple dinner at the outback healthwise I wasn't feeling all that well because of the pain and locking in my knee I started having symptoms in my right knee that has now continued to my left knee and I'm having issues with circulation. I saw an orthopedic doctor who gave me a diagnosis and a referral for a surgeon. Saturday I was a mess I just kept taking naproxen the rx I was given for inflammation which is just a temporary bandaid. Next day I still felt bad to the point I decided to go to the emergency room and get checked out only to be disappointed with the level of care I got. The level of care and customer service in the healthcare profession is on the decline and very mediocre whether I've been the patient or someone else has. These people are a joke even the nurses these days everyone is all about doing as little as they can to collect a paycheck and it's all about the bottom line to these hospitals and doctor's offices. I take a taxi to the ER which was a 20 minute wait I think I could've made it faster limping to catch the bus and train smh @@. To wait to be called in and registered I felt as if I was on an assembly line. The registration clerks are ghetto rude and unprofessional I couldn't believe how I overheard this woman screaming at this man b/c he forgot his worker's comp claim # I would have torn her two new aholes. I guess she's pissed off because the clockwatcher had to actually do some work and look him up in the system @@. Once I'm registered I go to the back and wait in a room I wind up falling asleep and being kicked out of a room to make room for another patient who came by ambulance by this time I was aggravated tired and still undiagnosed. A doctor a.k.a "quack" saw me and tells me there's "nothing" he could do for me as I can't have an MRI in the ER that's funny wth do they do with trauma or accident victims why don't you say the truth that your joke of a hospital doesn't have an MRI tech available on sundays tells me he doesn't see any swelling on my legs ok there unless you're blind of stupid they're swollen I was given an rx for tramadol to reduce inflammation and was discharged. That's right just quick to get you in and OUT and was given a referral to adult clinic and a orthopedic doctor when I already have one in place. Very disappointing indeed as this is supposed to be the one of the better hospitals in queens sadly. We leave get on the train and bus home on our bus ride home I get the only locking pain in my knee meanwhile this quack idiot poor excuse for an md couldn't see anything wrong with me. I called out yesterday b/c I couldn't really walk that well so I took the medication and went to get my MRI done it took a while and I'm anxiously awaiting my results and my appointment isn't for another week. I am always on my feet and I cannot afford to be out of work for a long period of time so I'm investigating and applied for disability just in case I need it. I am someone who is always on the move and about so me having these types of issues is a total drag for me. I'm nervous as I just want a diagnosis already. I research this doctor i'm supposed to see and this surgeon is affiliated with St Catherine's hospital and smithtown surgery center all the way in suffolk county long island how will I get there? I asked a dear friend for the favor should I need to get there. I'm sure they will tell me I have to lose weight as if I don't already know this to find the money and the time to exercise is very difficult when you already have so much on your plate to begin with. One thing I can agree with our president is the healthcare system is very flawed b/c costs are rising and care is declining insurance companies want to treat the patients instead of doctors doctor's who want to get paid by code bundling which means charging for things they didn't do or try to get a higher reimbursement rate which NEVER works but I doubt this new healthcare system is going to help anything just going to make things worse in my opinion b/c no one wants to comply with the new regulations or get the training needed and we have too many people who are studying healthcare professions who don't have what it takes to be in healthcare. These trade schools make so easy to be a medical secretary, coder, assistant, LPN, patient coordinator, etc. it's a total joke and a disgrace. During my visit to the imaging place yesterday there was no respect for HIPPA laws this woman expected me to shout my name and DOB for the whole waiting area to hear same with another patient another patient in excruiating pain walked out when there was an empty wheelchair they could've used it's pathetic but it's also her aide's fault for not advocating for her patient. So on your next visit to a doctor's office or hospital be alert, aggressive and advocate for yourself and your family members b/c if you let the mediocrity of these hospital staff or doctor's office be in charge you will get the bare minimum standard in care and if you're lucky you will be treated with compassion and respect.

On my own two years later

The summer in NYC is always so short and before you know it September is here and it's back to school back to the routines and a sign that the Fall is near. I love autumn in New York the trees look so beautiful as they turn colors the weather gets comfortably cooler and my son was born in the Fall so it's always a special time. This summer was okay I guess I didn't make it to the beach again this year I guess I may still have labor day left and another vacationless summer which is disappointing but next year I'm definitely going to travel. I work very hard between work, bills, jr, the housework my body and mind is screaming for some time off. Everyone deserves a break. This week my son is away at Florida on vacation and it's very quiet when he's not at home lol but I do miss him already even though I know he's having a blast down there in the theme parks and beach. Saturday is my birthday I will be 36 years old and I wish that I was turning 26 or even less at 36 years old while I'm much more mature, wiser, and know what I want but I'm still uncertain as to what direction my life is going. Being a single mother is hard work especially financially and with today's ridiculous cost of living standards I find myself coming up short all the time. I'm just tired of feeling the stress and the pinch all the time and lately I've been experiencing stress and office stupidity at work and I finally reached my boiling point and emailed my manager. I tried to word it very professionally but get my point across as I think I should've done this long ago. A part of me in some way always wants to be the peacemaker at times and sometimes this doesn't always work I've learned with age and experience to "say what's on your mind" everyone else does. What's the worst that I can happen? They get upset well one less xmas card to give out in December @@. I look back on my life as I approach my 36th birthday and I kind of wish I'd have been in a better place financially, marriage wise, have had another child or children but the ugly truth is life doesn't always turn out like you want it to sometimes. This year two years on my birthday my marriage was officially over as I look back on it now I think it was over for a long time but I wanted to make it work or maybe both us just couldn't admit to failure and close the door on it. Now two years later I'm working raising my son learning to be a better cook, better mom, and trying to enjoy life. Being on my own has taught me many lessons good and not so good. I've learned during the hard times who my friends are and whose full of it. I've learned who are real friends and who are glorified acquaintances who just want to stick by when times are good. A true friend is there for you in the good times and the bad, in truimph and defeat. Months past and I got a text from my son's godmother 6 months later after the disagreement I didn't respond back for the first time in years I didn't feel the need or want to. When you get to be a certain age you have no patience for petty bs and mind games I honestly don't I'm 35 going to be 36 saturday and I decided I want to have people in my life who are going to be a positive influence and have something to bring into the friendship. After many disappointments on the dating scene I began talking to a nice guy and we decided to meet on July 20th and we've been inseperable ever since. He is kind loving funny and very helpful and most importantly cares about both me and my son. Jr loves him. We went out as a group to see despicable me 2 and had a good time. For the first time in many years I feel that happiness that has been absent from my life for so long and I feel cared for respected and appreciated and while many people may think it's too soon but we are in love with each other and have plans for our future in the long term. I never thought I'd find a good companion again and I'm happy and life isn't as stressful as it was once. We talk we laugh watch movies I cook for him and actually enjoy doing this and no complaints and criticisms it's a great feeling to be appreciated. I received a letter from my son's school enclosed with a school supplies list which is long indeed and I'm informed that school starts sept 9 and they have a half day and regular session ends at 2:20 pm and this of course puts me in a bind as I get out at 4 pm and I'm sure this inconveniences other working parents as well so now I have to figure out how to juggle this yet again. I read the letter and became a little sad and teary eyed I can't believe jr is starting kindgarten it seems like yesterday he was born and I was bringing him home from the hospital they gave me a school identification tag with his name and class # on it. He will be in a two teacher classroom and the tag had both names on it. I worry about him how he will transition from pre-school to kindergarten but I think he will be okay. This year he will be turning 5 a special birthday we have to plan how we are going to celebrate. On another note my knee has been giving me a lot of pain and discomfort and I saw the orthopedist this week and I need an mri of my right knee and see a surgeon I think I need surgery to repair this issue as my knee locks when I walk or just hurts a lot and of course I worried about how will I get by and I had to research disability coverage. I will file the application but I think a country as sophisticated as ours should be ashamed of themselves as they have some of the worse benefits for american employees, especially when it comes to childcare, family leave, maternity, and disability coverage. Instead of worrying about real things that matters it seems like these politicians are just concerned about getting votes than living up to the smoke they blow into our ears. Well it's after 11 and while there's nothing to do it's back to work as the cubicles have eyes and ears here smh.